Steve Anderson - More Sad Than Vile. Who Knew That Was Possible?

Steve Anderson - More Sad Than Vile.  Who Knew That Was Possible?

If I wasn’t too busy laughing at him, I might get really upset about Steve Anderson’s incredibly vile and homophobic remarks that suggest an AIDS-free America might be possible if all the gay people were murdered before Christmas.  He has single handy given a whole new operational tact to the AIDS Free Generation movement.

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Regarding the "End of AIDS" Debate

Regarding the "End of AIDS" Debate

Have we looked deep enough at our motives?

First, this blog entry is meant as an explanation of questions that have haunted me for many years.  Even before the current "End of AIDS" debate began, I wondered about the questions I pose here.  I skirted with the subject briefly in my novel, but I did not delve as deeply into it as I will here.  I want to be very clear that this is an exploration of a personal fears, and some doubts I have about the motives behind much of the debates we see in our community.  It is not a suggestion of any one individual's or movement's actual motives.   

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The Unseen Costs of My HIV Medication

The Unseen Costs of My HIV Medication

Imagine the shock of this, after I had come of age with a two-year life expectancy.  Every few months my expected time on this earth was rounded up a few more months, but the prognosis was always bleak at best.  This went on for nearly a decade, almost all of my 20's.  And there was no doubt that my health was declining.  Recently, I saw a man on a talk show, a leader in the HIV/AIDS community, who described a similar experience, and received a round of applause when he stated his doctors, “Got it wrong.”   This bothered me, and I have been struggling with the complexity of what his statement, and the audience’s reaction, really meant.  What I have decided is that his statement was inaccurate.  If effective treatment had not been discovered in mid-90s, those doctors would have been right.  To my mind, the man on the talk show and I were simply lucky, and I don’t like being credited for luck.  Perhaps we are both fighters, but we can’t know that’s what saved us, because that spirit did not save many other fighters that I knew.   To me it seemed that he, like so many others, is now taking his survival for granted. 

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How “The Lego Movie” Can Stop AIDS

How “The Lego Movie” Can Stop AIDS

How “The Lego Movie” Can Stop AIDS

And fix almost everything wrong with the world!

Last Friday, amongst the fears of what was unfolding regarding the disastrous fate the Malaysian Airlines flight headed for the World AIDS Conference, I stumbled across a guy named Robert Brandon Sandor via Social Media.   Sandor’s website is dedicated to the mission of ending HIV through sero-sorting, a term that is used to describe the practice of negative and/or positive people limiting their sexual partners to people of the same status.  He has a plan to reach out to youth to take a pledge, which made me laugh, because I grew up in a school with an abstinence club, whose leader was sleeping around and kept the position to fool her parents.

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To Everyone Who Wants The Story of AIDS to Finally End

To Everyone Who Wants The Story of AIDS to Finally End

This is an open letter to ask that you help get the word about the messages contained within my novel.  Whether you read or buy the book is irrelevant.  Its message is what you need to share, now and loudly.  Writing this book took over a decade.  It took all those years, not just because it was a process in which I had to make sense the horrible losses of many friends to AIDS, and loss of my mother who lost a five-year battle to Cancer, the year after the AIDS crisis had “ended.”   In spite of all that loss, what I most needed to explore was what I lived as soon as the “crisis” was over.

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My recent interview on The Frank DeCaro Show on OutQ - SiriusXM Radio

My recent interview on The Frank DeCaro Show on OutQ - SiriusXM Radio

This blog post is a video that we pulled together to accompany the audio tack of my recent interview on The Frank DeCaro Show. The interview was conducted by the show's regular guest host, Dennis Hensley, as Frank was traveling to NYC for gay pride.  Dennis and Frank are both old friends of mine, so when I got an email from Dennis, asking if I could join him on the air the next day,  I jumped at the chance. 

At Sirius/XM, the offices and studios were bustling with the amazing energy that I remember NYC to be all about, a guy in a suit standing next to a guy in shorts and flip-flops, each in line for the same bathroom stall, each anxious to get through the line fast enough to stay on schedule.  I was thrilled to finally see the infamous “Rainbow Room” at Sirius/XM OutQ radio....

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Why Today June 27th is No Ordinary Day

Why Today June 27th is No Ordinary Day

Today is June 27th. It is and average day leading into prime time summer summer.   And due to the lingering cold, summer started late this year.  Today, you probably want to cut your work day short, enjoy an ice cream from a Mr. Softee truck, hit the beach or the park, spend time with your kids, or do any one of a thousand things that go with the season we all love to enjoy. 

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